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Being Gay is A-OK

Part II. Fabulous soundtrack for this magnificent post: Cake – I Will Survive.

There used to be a name for being gay when you were straight: le metrosexual: David Beckham was a metrosexual, Tinky Winky was a metrosexual, although debatable  - he’s purple and carries a handbag – and Le Clown was a metrosexual, or so said Cosmopolitan. Mark Simpson is responsible for coining the term metrosexual, back in 1994 [when you weren't born yet] in The Independent:

“Metrosexual man, the single young man with a high disposable income, living or working in the city (because that’s where all the best shops are), is perhaps the most promising consumer market of the decade. In the Eighties he was only to be found inside fashion magazines such as GQ, in television advertisements for Levi’s jeans or in gay bars. In the Nineties, he’s everywhere and he’s going shopping.”

Le Clown eating banana

All the naked werewolves in Twilight make me crave potassium. Team Jacob 4evah!

When I was 27 and thought to be homosexual because I enjoyed getting my hair done in beauty salons, wearing pink fitted shirts, and dabbed a little Clinique Happy for Men around the neck, it was not being tagged as a gay man that bothered me, but being tagged as a homosexual because I fitted the metrosexual mold. Stereotypes and Le Clown have never really co-habited well together. Even when we tried to be roomies, we couldn’t stand each other: Le Clown is opinionated and Stereotypes will do its best to squeeze him into a mold of conformity; Le Clown‘s gorgeous, and has pretty friends, while Stereotypes hangs out with Rush Limbaugh. A few more years living under the same roof and we would have had our own TLC show, scheduled right after My Teen Is Pregnant and So Am I. Being gay because I like to shop at Mexx is as offensive to Le Clown as stating that all Americans are bigots because they eat at Chick-Fil-A.

All Americans are bigots, regardless.

Le Clown agrees with Le Calahan’s comment: “Being gay isn’t a choice, but learning how to dress yourself is“. Well said, Le Calahan, I guess you sport an awful hairdo by choice. Being gay is not about your Abercrombie and Fitch shirt or about enjoying Robert Mapplethorpe‘s pictures like I do. Having gay friends and many platonic girlfriends like Le Clown does – A Clown on Fire‘s readership is 90% women – doesn’t define you as a gay man, it defines you as being awesome fabulous magnificent. Now that Le Clown is 41, with a protuberant one-ab, and married (to a woman) with two kids, he doesn’t get the “you’re gay and that’s A-OK” comments so much anymore. When I’m seen walking in the streets of Montreal with my black AND gay best friend, people turn heads because 1) we look fabulous together and 2) I AM LE CLOWN, and it’s great to be me. And THAT is super.

Le Clown and his pussy.

She might not be Brazilian, but I love her just the way she is.

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Discussion

134 Responses to “Being Gay is A-OK”

  1. Le Clown,
    Americans ARE bigoted, homophobic assholes…
    OH WAIT…. does that mean I am too???
    FUCK!
    THAM

    Posted by the howler and me | August 3, 2012, 07:18
  2. Mapplethorpe too? I’m getting suspicious…

    Posted by pinkagendist | August 3, 2012, 07:19
  3. Hey, I’m 41 too, I couldn’t wish for a better person to share my age with!

    My son who is 10 has always taken an interest in clothes and his appearance. Even as a very small child, if he was given clothes as a present instead of a toy, he would be perfectly happy with that, and not throw it down in disgust (like a lot of children I’ve seen do, boy or girl). He likes shopping for new clothes, and is very clear on what he likes and doesn’t like. A couple of friends have commented that this clearly shows he is gay – I think it’s too early to know whether that is true or not, but it’s interesting that people still make that assumption. I have noted down your quote “Being gay isn’t a choice, but learning how to dress yourself is“ for future reference, it’s excellent.

    Posted by Vanessa Chapman | August 3, 2012, 07:20
    • Vanessa,
      I have a feeling, from reading your posts, that if your son is gay or not, he will be loved nonetheless. That’s the greatest gift you will give him. And introduce him to Le Clown’s blog, of course. But I’d wait a few years on that one.
      Le Clown

      Posted by clownonfire | August 3, 2012, 08:04
  4. Le Clown,
    You are indeed fabulous… I mean, magnificent.

    “Being gay because I like to shop at Mexx is as offensive to Le Clown as stating that all Americans are bigots because they eat at Chick-Fil-A.

    All Americans are bigots, regardless.” This made me laugh so hard I snorted coffee out my nose and scared the shit out of my dog (not literally, just figuratively).

    Awesome.

    -Shan

    Posted by shanz83 | August 3, 2012, 07:22
  5. Dear Le Clown-
    I am a little too groggy this morning but your bananarama picture made me crack up. Mmmmm Americans as bigots.. I do suppose, unfortnuately, you are mostly correct with that statement.(Political crap season is making it much worse.)
    We are a bunch of arrogant pompous assholes. I would like to think I am not though– would lovely Canada allow an unfettered lady to immigrate?
    A

    Posted by unfetteredbs | August 3, 2012, 07:34
  6. Few things are better than waking to a photo of you eating a banana.

    Also, for a moment I thought it said you lived under the same roof at TLC and I was like hmm..he has yet to mention that one.

    Anyway, we’re glad you’re you!

    Posted by La La | August 3, 2012, 07:39
  7. My father was metro when I was growing up. Back then we didn’t have a word for it because we were’t cool and okay with stuff like that. My dad wore clogs, loved decorating his house, etc. He was and IS a complete and utter narcissist. That may be funny from a distance but REAl narcissism is one of the most unattractive personality traits I’ve ever encountered. Many Metrosexuals have narcissist tendencies.

    Le Clown, I sense that you love yourself in a more self deprecating way. You seem very sensitive and aware. You’re better than the average everyday metro because you are, well, you’re Le Clown.

    Posted by A gripping life | August 3, 2012, 07:43
  8. See if you don’t fit into our little boxes than we can’t sufficiently advertise and condescend to you. Thanks so much.
    love,
    the corporations of the world

    Posted by speaker7 | August 3, 2012, 08:06
    • Dear Corporations of the World,
      This is Noam Chomsky, author of “Manufacturing Consent”. Please leave Le Clown alone. Thank you,
      NC

      Dear Noam,
      Thanks for coming to my defence. But I can fight my own battles thank you.
      Le Clown

      Dear Le Clown,
      Noam again. It’s a beautiful pussy you have there.
      Noam

      Posted by clownonfire | August 3, 2012, 08:13
  9. what not even one reference to that fabulouse poem “Don’t call me metrosexual?” Yes that was a shameless plug. One of my best friends in my youth in San Francisco was an older black man and people always thought we were a couple. I was hit on constantly in SF as a young man and once that was straightened out they introduced me to all their single gal pals. It was awesome.

    Bryan unbigoted american so screw all you jealous canucks except Montreal which I love much.

    Posted by redwheelbarrow1957 | August 3, 2012, 08:09
  10. You ARE magnificent and I’m honoured to share a country with you, good sir!

    Posted by mylifeisthebestlife | August 3, 2012, 08:28
  11. So many ways I can use the “fit in a box” reference for a joke, but alas I have used up all my crude humor on my cock and balls story.

    Posted by Fish Out of Water | August 3, 2012, 08:28
  12. Le Clown,

    What an embodiment of magnificence you truly are… and yes Team Jacob 4evah. Now if only i can go to Chick Fil A without anyone seeing me

    Posted by boomiebol | August 3, 2012, 08:47
  13. Thank You for the high dose of potassium this morning Le Clown xx
    C xx

    Posted by Cat Forsley | August 3, 2012, 08:51
  14. A picture of a metrosexual Le Clown eating a banana is the best thing I’m going to see all day!

    Posted by MissFourEyes | August 3, 2012, 08:59
  15. Dear Le Clown,
    How long, if ever, must one reside out side those United States to longer be considered bigoted? (Just violent)
    I think we have some duty men who must be getting close.
    Peaches.
    p.s.-Happy is a wonderful scent.

    Posted by Peaches | August 3, 2012, 09:40
    • Peaches,
      “…to [no] longer be considered bigoted? (Just violent)”. Now that made me laugh. And I do think Happy has a nice little something to it. I’ve changed fragrance since then, but I sill go to it occasionally.
      Le Clown

      Posted by clownonfire | August 3, 2012, 10:47
      • Le Clown,
        Thank you for correcting my typing. Happy is nice. I used to wear it. I had a sample that I cherished.(see: Peaches is cheap) Now I am trying a new scent but it has no staying power. Oh, I am wonderful at coming up with excuses to shop! Yeah!
        Glad I could make you laugh :)
        Peaches

        Posted by Peaches | August 3, 2012, 10:49
  16. It is mind boggling to me that people in the South KNOW what God likes and dislikes and then believe they are apostles to ensure everyone else in America knows what God likes and dislikes. Apparently God likes bigots who have large appetites for fried chicken and potatoes. Personally, I think God works in mysteries ways….I have a hunch there is a reason why God gave bigots an appetite for greasy fried food!

    Posted by asklotta | August 3, 2012, 09:52
  17. Humor and a moral message I can get on board with. I like this post even more than I usually do!

    Posted by Ruby Tuesday | August 3, 2012, 09:52
  18. I am going to start a letter-writing campaign for you to get your own TLC show. I think it would do well right behind the new Here Comes Honey Boo Boo must-see trainwreck.

    Metrosexuals are the best. I love that husband has gone back to work for the fall because now he is wearing his Burberry cologne everyday again. He only wears it when he has somewhere to be. He will transition to pink pants and gingham in no time. Eek, what a clod I am. It’s about to be fall so maybe DKNY trenchcoats will be more stylish. I myself and I horrible metrosexual.

    Posted by The Waiting | August 3, 2012, 10:08
  19. Your banana eating technique is pretty good. I’m impressed.

    Posted by Madame Weebles | August 3, 2012, 10:49
  20. Don’t ever change. I like you just the way you are. Those are song lyrics that I think apply to Le Clown. Nice banana and kitty pic btw. And yes, believe it or not, I get the symbolism.

    Posted by Brigitte | August 3, 2012, 10:57
  21. Dear Le Clown,
    These are good posts. I love the time we are entering. The other day, my 12-yr-old daughter was busy texting away. Husby and I are like..WHO are you texting? Her anwer: Tad. He’s in 9th grade. We were like….LIsten HERE young lady. NO older boys for YOU!
    Preturbed almost teen: OMG you guys…he’s GAY!!! Stop spazzing!
    Us: Oh! Cool. Carry on.
    Lisa :)

    Posted by Carr Party of Five | August 3, 2012, 10:58
  22. I think maybe your obsession with nice clothes comes from the French part of being French Canadian? Maybe…

    Posted by Shannon.Kennedy | August 3, 2012, 11:20
    • Shannon,
      Funny enough, I was going to tackle that part when I thought my post was good as is… Being well dressed is often associated with being French Canadian. But same is with being flirtatious, or giving compliments. I’m someone who has more girl friends that male friends. And I will not shy away from telling someone she’s very pretty, or a guy, he’s freakin’ hot. That also got me in hot water a few times: I’m either a charmer/flirt and “typically French”, or gay. It’s cute how it gets people worked up.
      Le Clown

      Posted by clownonfire | August 3, 2012, 11:30
  23. I always knew there was a reason I didn’t like stereotypes. His friends are ugly.

    Posted by rollergiraffe | August 3, 2012, 11:50
  24. Kiss me, you magnificent le bastard.

    Posted by calahan | August 3, 2012, 11:56
  25. Glad that you’re so comfortable being straight that you were flattered when mistaken for being gay because you have good taste. Yesterday I saw accompanying a dowdy woman, an out of shape older person with a bad haircut and such horrible taste in clothes, I assumed they were a butch/femme lesbian couple. Upon closer look I realized the butch half of the equation was actually a guy with terrible lesbian taste. I doubt he’d be flattered if I told him, “You know, sir, you look just like a lesbian.” I didn’t want to give the impression that I’m another bigoted American.

    Posted by lameadventures | August 3, 2012, 12:32
    • V,
      If I would still run my BEST COMMENT OF THE WEEK contest, this one would be the first float leading the parade… God that was an awful attempt at making an analogy to Pride. I’m leaving before it gets worse…
      Le Clown

      Posted by clownonfire | August 3, 2012, 12:36
  26. Now people just think your family is a cover. Bahahaha… I am kidding Le Clown.

    Posted by bipolarmuse | August 3, 2012, 13:34
  27. In the current western cultural climate, I would be disappointed with myself if I was not considered a bigot by someone. It would signal I had no consistent beliefs and wasn’t willing to express the one’s I had.

    Posted by asoulwalker | August 3, 2012, 14:09
    • A Soul Walker,
      So why not being an activist instead of a bigot? That entails having an opinion and a set of beliefs, too?
      Le Clown

      Posted by clownonfire | August 3, 2012, 14:16
      • Rush Limbaugh is an activist.

        Posted by asoulwalker | August 3, 2012, 14:21
        • A Soul Walker,
          Correction: Rush Limbaugh is a dumb fuck.
          Le Clown

          Posted by clownonfire | August 3, 2012, 14:22
          • You see, this is exactly what I mean. I may happen to agree with you about Rush a lot of the time (maybe even most of the time) but someone is going to think you are a bigot if you voice a strong opinion. If I was an activist, I would be still be considered a bigot by someone. I am pretty well convinced of this. I do not mean to imply that a person cannot have a wide and diverse fan base of supporters, but seriously, Rush isn’t stupid. He’s making a living in the climate that he was born into. I may not like him (and even less so when he happens to agree with me on a particular issue because Lord knows I don’t want him championing any of my causes), but it is all an act. He pushes buttons to make money. So does Richard Dawkins, So does Rev. Sharpton, so do a lot of people. Are some of them that bitter, angry, and full of vitriol– probably, but most of them are playing the system. They get press and gobs of (indirect) income by being public assholes.

            Posted by asoulwalker | August 3, 2012, 14:31
            • And forgive me if I’ve grown too serious in this thread. The effects of studying philosophy for years are hard to wipe off. I have this silly tendency to get sucked into arguments and take them very seriously even when the venue isn’t made for it. I have a hard time “turning it off.” I love Le Clown and I do not want to kill anyone’s buzz. I happen to think bigot is an overused word, but I don’t like “public assholes” anymore than anyone else.

              Posted by asoulwalker | August 3, 2012, 14:39
            • A Soul Walker,

              I know what you mean. But this is where I see the difference. According to Webster:

              1. Bigot: a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance.

              Objectively, Rush Limbaugh calling Sandra Fluke a “slut” and “a prostitute” because she wanted her college’s health insurance to include contraception is hateful, and denigrates, therefore I see “bigotry”.

              2. Activist: a doctrine or practice that emphasizes direct vigorous action especially in support of or opposition to one side of a controversial issue.

              This is where I think of Noam Chomsky who supported the Occupy movement by giving enlightened interview with facts, in a peaceful manner. He was taking a position, defending an opinion without adopting a hateful speech. I see “activism”.

              I think there’s a subtle difference in the way you will voice out your stance.

              And then, there’s Le Clown… And that in itself is my closing statement.

              Le Clown

              Posted by clownonfire | August 3, 2012, 14:42
  28. I cracked up at your picture – perfect profile view of a firm tubular fruit entering a hungry, healthy man. I have a girlfriend – known her since we were kids and it drives me INSANE when she pigeonholes guys that care about their appearance just a little more than gorillas do -as GAY. I hate it. I think men who give a shit are just appreciating the aesthetics of living. I also din’t grow up with 3 brothers and a dad who must have been more animal than suave. Go on and eat your bananas while getting a damn pedicure! As for myself – I’ll always prefer a man with style over a man who’s afraid of a banana.

    Posted by jayne ayres | August 3, 2012, 15:56
  29. Well, you do know how to sport a jaunty scarf around your neck. I say the jury is still out.

    Posted by robincoyle | August 3, 2012, 17:10
  30. Here here! Nice pussy!

    Posted by mabukach | August 3, 2012, 18:24
  31. Oh Le Clown, you’re just in touch with your softer side…not to mention being well aware of your daily nutrition needs.

    Posted by Cathy Ulrich | August 3, 2012, 18:32
  32. Le Clown,

    Tell ‘em how you feel, girl.

    Owl

    Posted by owl | August 3, 2012, 19:04
  33. Hahaha, you.

    Posted by billmcmorrow | August 3, 2012, 20:40
  34. Le Clown will always be too fabulous for stereotypes.
    p.s. my soul is old and was not originally american therefor I am not a bigot. I have yet to figure out where my soul has originated. Or maybe It is american and I am in denial.

    Posted by nevercontrary | August 3, 2012, 20:53
  35. Lawd hab mercy Miss Thang.. I’m off the web a mere 14 hours and all hell broke loose over here.. I’ll have you know I’m a rightly proud bigot. I hate fleas, mice and sushi.. Gays, however I love!!
    You are too much.. gotta come up with a Drag name for you… :-)

    Posted by free penny press | August 3, 2012, 21:35
  36. Gay or straight, fabulous or magnificent, I will always love you. xo

    Posted by writerwendyreid | August 3, 2012, 22:17
  37. Le Clown,
    Le Paz approves of this magnificent post. You made the Mouse smile too, which is really good since the Mouse has been frantic.
    Le Paz

    Posted by PAZ | August 4, 2012, 13:12
  38. I have been reading your post and subsequent comments while lying on the floor nursing a small case of angina from a Chick-Fil-A #10 Spicy. Lil’ K. and Lil’ P. left their waffle fries and sidled over to see what was shakin’ in Le Monde Magnifique de Le (du? Je ne me souviens pas) Clown. Both were so overwhelmed by your photogenic amazingness that they promptly asked for bananas and new shirts. They both extend a hearty “BONJOUR” in your general direction. Lil’ P. has agreed to wear my heels the next time we visit Chick-Fil-A.

    Posted by Jennifer Worrell | August 4, 2012, 18:24
  39. I had to click on the MEXX link because I’d never heard of it (American) and it is sooooo metrosexual! Especially the music playing on the site, which crossed over into gay territory. The clothes are pretty cute though! Maybe I should go to Canada. :)

    Americans are bigots. As I write this, there has been a shooting in a Sikh temple in Milwaukee. It’s too early to know the details of it, but it was probably by some ignorant bigoted asshole who thinks Sikhs are Jihadist Muslims. It saddens and angers me that with as much technology, resources and knowledge as we have here, shit like this happens.

    And so do Chick-Fil-A’s.

    Posted by travellingmo | August 5, 2012, 15:00
  40. This is so… manpowering! Word.

    Posted by Kareen | August 6, 2012, 09:26

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